Catastrophe: noun. an event causing great and often sudden damage or suffering; a disaster.
This story is not.
It’s been a month, so this event is actually pretty funny to me now (ah, Time, you good ‘ol healer). When it was happening though, it really sucked.
This is the story of me, my four year-old, and his side-kick autism on an epic journey for the ever-elusive chocolate dipped ice cream cone. Brace yourselves.
Big C (my son) and I had just finished a phenomenal field trip at the Ann Arbor Hands-on Museum. As a sensory-seeking child with little impulse control and a tendency for aggression, my son was put to the test on this sensory-overloaded field trip. When the trip was over, I swear to you I could hear a choir of angels singing. The trip went off without a hitch!
Hoping to capitalize on our good fortune and the beautiful spring day (our first this season), I asked Big C if he’d like to go for a walk and get an ice cream. Naturally, he said yes, and we were on our way. I had already taken out my phone and Google-mapped a place a few blocks away.
Oh, did we have fun! I let Big C hold my phone so he could watch our dot get closer and closer to our destination. My excitement built along with his.
As we walked, he made sure to ask me (several times), “They have my kind, right?”
“What’s your kind, honey?”
“The white kind, with chocolate on top.”
“Oh, you bet!” I felt a tug on my heart and sweat beginning to bead on my forehead. I think I knew what he meant, but I wasn’t sure. My memory was racing. He liked chocolate-dipped vanilla cones, right? It was tricky because “his kind” could change on a dime, dependent upon his mood. I had total confidence, however, that this place would satisfy his needs for vanilla ice cream and chocolate.
About fifteen minutes later, we arrived at our location: it was closed.
Due to open in TWO days.
I quickly recovered as I witnessed my son’s crumbling face. “No, problem! We will just use our map to find a new place!” My son smiled, readily agreed, and we soon found ourselves at Kilwin’s, just a few blocks away.
Then events turned ugly.
Immediately, the place had an icky feel to it. It was small and the smell of fudge was overpowering. Right away, Big C was not happy. “Oh, look!” I pointed, my voice dripping with forced enthusiasm. “There are so many choices of ice cream to choose from!”
Big C looked aghast. “They don’t have my kind!”
“Well, why don’t you try a few samples, and see if you like a new kind?”
He grumbled in response. Feverishly, I began asking the woman at the counter if we could try the different varieties of vanilla they had. She agreed, but all samples were met with a look of disdain and growing frustration by my son.
Trying to help, the woman calmly handed him a little spoonful of Mackinac Island Fudge. “Here, my children love this.”
Big C took a little taste and proclaimed, “That’s disgusting!” Amid my apologetic looks and rising blood pressure, Big C began pacing back and forth from one end of the ice cream counter to the next, humming in a high-pitched tone. It was a full-on stimming episode, and I felt powerless to stop it as I tried to ignore the judgmental stares from patrons and workers.
After about five minutes, I couldn’t take it any more and grabbed him by the arm, and as gently (but firmly) as I could, escorted him out.
“Are we going somewhere else for ice cream?”
I was tired and frustrated, so I responded with, “No, we’re out of options.”
The ten-minute walk back to the car was accompanied by his full volume wailing. I thought the stares in Kilwin’s were awkward. Bah! I kept waiting for a police car to pull up beside us and ask if everything was alright.
But then, a glimmer of hope joined our, thus far, failed mission. Once we got to the car, Big C said, “I’m sorry I disappointed you.”
A direct stab to the heart.
“It’s okay,” I blubbered, hugging him hard. Then, inspiration struck. “Hey, why don’t we try McDonald’s? It’s right on the way home.”
His eyes lit up. “Okay!”
So we were on our way again, sure to be victorious on our quest for ice cream.
About twenty minutes later, we pulled into the McDonald’s parking lot and, hand in hand, skipped in and ordered. No problem.
Then another curve ball came.
“Hey, we don’t have dipped cones yet. They’re seasonal,” the sloppy-looking, presumed-manager, barked from the back.
I glanced furtively over at my son, his eyes welling with tears.
“Maybe a sundae?” the teenage girl working the register kindly suggested.
“That’s not going to work,” I snarled at her. Poor girl.
But then I realized I had no alternative and, with some convincing, Big C begrudgingly agreed to try a sundae with chocolate syrup.
Once he saw what it was, his eyes lit up. He took a bite and said, triumphantly, “Mmm…yum! That’s my kind!”
As he finished his treat, I sat beside him in the booth, enjoying those ten minutes of silence, filled with the occasional sounds of Big C licking his spoon. At that point, I wasn’t in the mood for ice cream.
Besides, McDonald’s didn’t have my kind.
Once home, exhausted, but not willing to neglect the beautiful day, I texted our neighbor with children the same age to suggest a walk to the park.
Her response: Sounds great! Be home in ten. At Dairy Queen just finishing up. It’s free cone day.
[insert expletive here].
So, what does your child “need” to have?
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~Chaos Contemplated (for now)
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